Activities That Support Connection for People Living With Dementia

The forget me not flower is a symbol used by the Alzheimer’s Society - a reminder to remember people living with Alzheimer's and other dementias, as well as their caregivers.

When someone you love is living with dementia or cognitive decline, it can feel hard to know how to spend time together. Conversations may change. Attention spans may shift; vision or hearing may be impaired. Familiar routines may no longer feel easy.

The good news is that meaningful connection is still very possible — it just looks a little different. Activities don’t need to be complicated or “productive” to be valuable. Often, the most supportive moments come from shared presence, gentle engagement, and familiarity.

Below are activity ideas designed to support connection, dignity, and emotional wellbeing at every stage of cognitive change.

1. Familiar, Purposeful Activities

Activities tied to long-held routines or roles can feel grounding and comforting. They can build confidence and support identity. 

Examples may include:

  • Working together folding laundry or towels

  • Watering plants or light gardening together 

  • Setting the table or organizing cutlery

  • Sorting items by colour or size

These activities offer a sense of purpose without pressure and can support some easy conversation about some of our favourite things — and often spark quiet moments of satisfaction.

2. Music and Sound-Based Activities

Music can reach parts of the brain that language sometimes can’t - memories are triggered through emotion. Studies are being done on the effectiveness of connecting through music - it is proving to have some great results. 

Try:

  • Playing music from their teens or early adulthood

  • Singing familiar songs together

  • Gentle movement or swaying to music - dancing if that’s something comfortable 

  • Listening to nature sounds or instrumental playlists

Even when words are difficult, music often brings calm, joy, familiarity or recognition.



3. Reminiscence Without Pressure

Talking about the past can feel safer than focusing on the present, honouring their life experiences. 

Ideas include:

  • Looking through photo albums together

  • Asking open-ended prompts like: 

    • “What was your favourite place to visit?”

    • “What kind of work did you enjoy most?”

    • “Did you enjoy schoolwork?”


  • Watching old movies or TV shows from familiar decades

The goal isn’t accuracy — it’s about connection.

4. Sensory-Based Activities

Sensory experiences can be calming and grounding, helping someone living with dementia engage the senses when words are harder. 

Consider:

  • Hand massage with lotion

  • Soft blankets or textured fabrics

  • Baking or cooking for familiar smells

  • Pet therapy or time with animals

These activities often reduce agitation and support emotional regulation.

5. Creative Expression

Creativity doesn’t require skill or memory — just opportunity. It helps encourage expression without rules. 

Options include:

  • Painting or colouring

  • Simple crafts

  • Clay or playdough

  • Collage using magazines or photos

There’s no right or wrong outcome — just the experience of creating.

6. Gentle Movement

Movement can improve mood, sleep, and overall comfort. Gentle movement and exercise support physical and emotional wellbeing. 

Some ideas to try:

  • Short walks in nature 

  • Chair-based stretching

  • Simple yoga or balance exercises

  • Dancing to familiar music

  • Tai-chi is proving to be excellent for some living with the diseases 

Remember to always adapt to energy levels and physical ability.

7. Quiet Companionship

Sometimes, being present is enough and the most meaningful activity is simply being together.

That might look like:

  • Sitting side-by-side

  • Holding hands

  • Watching birds out a window

  • Sharing a cup of tea

Presence matters — even when conversation doesn’t.

A Gentle Reminder

People living with dementia or cognitive decline are still whole people — deserving of dignity, choice, and connection. Activities don’t need to fill time or fix anything. They simply need to meet the person where they are.

Small moments of calm, familiarity, and shared experience can make a meaningful difference — for everyone involved.

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If you need some more support, please don’t hesitate to reach out.